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Preparing for the Worst on Your Wedding Day

In today’s #weddingwednesday post, I’m collaborating with my friends at Azazie, a leading fashion bridal party online store. They are sharing some awesome tips for remedying stressful situations that can arise on a wedding day. Hopefully you will never have to deal with any of these events, but it’s always better to be prepared! Read on from Azazie!

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avoiding wedding day stress

Prepare for the Worst - All Unfortunate Events that Might Happen During your Wedding Day!

Weddings have gained the reputation of being the best day of someone’s life. While they are certainly a time to be celebrated and revered, they’re also a major event, often with a high price tag, lots of guests, and a lot of moving parts.

Yes, things go wrong during weddings, sometimes no matter how well prepared a couple may be. However, the show must go on! Here’s how to prepare for the worst and handle the unfortunate events that might happen during your special day.

Spill on the Wedding Dress

The dress is the real event of the wedding for most brides, and perhaps the detail that matters the most. Think about it. You’ve spent hours looking for the perfect destination wedding dresses by Azazie for your romantic tropical elopement. You’ve saved, you’ve swiped credit cards, you’ve gone to fittings and had it tucked, tailored and customized to your heart’s desire. Then, out of nowhere, someone spills a glass of red wine, or you drop one of those tasty, oily snacks on yourself. Don’t panic! Here’s how to get out the most common stains in a pinch:

  • Oil or grease - do not use water! Apply baby powder or cornstarch and let it sit for 15 minutes before wiping away. Repeat a few times as needed. See to the rest with a dab of rubbing alcohol or hand sanitizer. This will greatly minimize the visibility of the stain.

  • Red wine - believe it or not, white wine can help pull the red wine from the fabric. Follow up with baking soda and warm water, wiping toward the center of the stain.

  • Makeup - use a makeup remover wipe or cream and rub into the area. Let it set, then remove it with a damp cloth before soaking up the residue with baby powder or cornstarch.

Try to mitigate stains by eating and applying makeup before putting the dress on for the ceremony.

avoiding stains and spills on your wedding day

Rain in an Outdoor Ceremony

When planning an outdoor wedding, you should always be prepared for bad weather. While it can be disappointing, having a plan in place to move to an indoor location or tent is ideal. Alternatively, invest in black or clear umbrellas just in case. While the rain may seem disappointing at first, there’s nothing more romantic than rainy wedding day pictures.

Missing Ring

Losing the rings can be extremely stressful. However, the rings aren’t a legal requirement for a wedding. Don’t waste too much time looking for the rings; have someone else search while you proceed with the events. In a pinch, ask to borrow your parents’ rings for a solution that still offers intimacy and symbolism.

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Guest Drama

From embarrassing speeches to drunk uncles to uninvited plus one guests, the actions of others is not something within your control. The best you can do when these issues arise is take a breath and not let it ruin your day, delegating someone else to deal with the situation.

You aren’t obligated to provide a meal to an unwanted guest or even give them a seat with their date. Nor do you have to deal with someone else’s emotional meltdown. Have your planner or a designated bridesmaid or groomsmen handle the situation discreetly.

Remember, all that matters on your wedding day is the celebration of your union with your significant other. Don’t sweat the small stuff; it all makes for a great story to tell your grandchildren. And remember, your dream honeymoon is right around the corner - you will have deserved relaxation soon!

Benefits of Doing a First Look | Bride's Planning Guide

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One of the #1 things that always gets discussed at my wedding consultations is: “Should we see each other before the ceremony or not?”

First Look from two perspectives

First Look from two perspectives

First Look for outdoor summer wedding

First Look for outdoor summer wedding

When I meet with couples for their initial consultation, I tell them that my clients usually end up being about 50/50 on this decision.I am a strong advocate of the “First Look” or “Reveal,” but I don’t push my clients in either direction.I want you to feel comfortable in the decision you make, and most people who *don’t* want to see each other have very strong feelings about it, so I don’t push the issue.It is very sacred for some people that the groom first sees the bride on the wedding day when she walks down the aisle. I totally respect that decision!

I thought it might be helpful to walk through the pros of doing a first look for those still weighing their options.By seeing each other before the ceremony, you take some pressure off each other (especially the groom waiting in front of your entire guest list!).You get to see each other for the first time in a much more private moment, shake off some of those nerves, and spend a couple of minutes together before all the hustle and bustle (see what I did there?!) of the day.

First Look from second shooter's perspective

First Look from second shooter's perspective

First Look at fall golf club wedding

First Look at fall golf club wedding

Aside from that, the First Look is a good idea because it allows us to get most of the important photos out of the way before the ceremony, which gives the couple more time at the cocktail hour and less time keeping the guests waiting for their arrival.Before the ceremony, we can do photos of the the couple, bridal party, individuals, and some family photos.That leaves just any remaining family groups for after the ceremony, and a quick stop at an alternate location for more couple photos, and possibly a bridal party pose or two.I recommend that all my couples choose at least one alternate location for their photos aside from the ceremony and reception spots, just so they have some variety in their gallery and album.Locations that are personal or special to the couple are always encouraged!

First Look under shade tree at country club

First Look under shade tree at country club

Developing Your Wedding Day Timeline

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starbucks coffee at the bridal salon

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wedding retro getaway Thunderbird car

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fun times with wedding party on football field

wedding reception venue and cake cutting

wedding reception venue and cake cutting

gray peacock blue wedding party on UI campus

gray peacock blue wedding party on UI campus

Once you have your ceremony time scheduled (this may be predetermined by the church/venue or up to you), you can start to plan the other parts of your day. The caterer will want to select a reasonable time to serve dinner somewhat based on your ceremony time as well, but it will be up to you to decide how much time you need between the ceremony and reception. And to determine that, we need to know if the you — the couple — want to see each other prior to your walk down the aisle. A “First Look” or “Reveal” is when the wedding couple choose to see each other before the ceremony. There are many reasons this is a good idea — it saves time between the ceremony and reception, it takes some pressure off the couple at the processional since they’ve already had a private moment together, and it also gives you overall more time together on your big day. A First Look is definitely not necessary, and I by no means would ever require anyone to do one. I’d say about 50 percent of my clients choose to see each other before the ceremony. If you checked out my previous post on “golden hour” and sunsets, you may have noticed how important it is to factor sunset time into your timeline as well. Even if you don’t want to or can’t sneak away from your reception for a few minutes, it’s important to check the sunset time for your date just so you know how much daylight you have to work with in general. If you’re planning a December wedding, chances are you will need to do a First Look because there may be no time for portraits after the ceremony. Be sure to talk with your venue(s), wedding planner, caterer, and possibly the DJ too to verify all the times work with each of them also. Below is a sample wedding timeline that I go over with potential clients at their consultation. I don’t often start photographing as early as 9am, but that is just a general guideline I put in to give you an idea of a full day. Typically, I start photographing around lunch time, depending on the client’s wedding collection and number of hours I am scheduled. Also, many Catholic churches have earlier ceremony times because they have to keep their Mass schedule for Saturday evenings. Family pictures don’t generally take as long as people think; it doesn’t make sense to have your extended family stick around waiting, so I like to get those groups rounded up quickly, then pare down the larger groups to smaller and smaller groups, and release the groups as they are finished. Sample Wedding Timeline - WITHOUT First Look or Reveal 9am - Hair appointments? 11am - Bride’s makeup ?12pm - Travel to church/lunch? 1pm - Bride gets dressed 1:15pm - Bride & Bridesmaid photos (some immediate family, optional) 1:45pm - Groom & Groomsmen photos (some immediate family, optional) 2:30pm - Getting ready candids/exchanging gifts/details photos by Holly 3pm - Ceremony 3:30pm - Getaway/receiving line ?3:45pm - Family pictures ?4pm - Wedding party photos at alternate location 4:30pm - Bride & groom portraits ?5:15pm - Arrive at reception site? 5:30pm - Announce wedding party? 5:45pm - Cut cake/start dinner? 6pm-7pm - Dinner? 7pm - Toasts? 7:15pm - First dances ?8pm - Bouquet/garter toss This timeline is just a general guideline and can definitely adjusted as needed and curated based on your own preferences and vendor needs. I am happy to help any of my clients completely customize their timeline as well! Happy planning!!